How’s your marriage?
I’m going to start this blog post out with a warning. This post isn’t for the wimpy but this is for the woman who wants to grow in her love for her husband and the Lord. I’m going to share with you the FREE gift you can give to CHANGE your marriage…
I am teaching on Monday and I’ve had a really hard time with thoughts flowing from the Lord on what to teach about. I don’t want my lesson, I want His. So, I was praying and asking God to reveal to me any un-confessed sin I might have. I didn’t hear anything so I went on to read some scripture. My lesson is on dreaming with God. Take one of your dreams, brainstorm with God on the dream and then ask God to give you scriptures you can pray towards that dream. I found myself in Ephesians 5. He has given me Ephesians 5:14-17 as a theme verse for my Dream, Pray, Create Retreat I would like to start. I decided to go on and read the rest of the chapter and WHAMMY there was the attitude God wanted to work on with me. This is what it says:
and the wife [must see to it] that she respects and delights in her husband [that she notices him and prefers him and treats him with loving concern, treasuring him, honoring him, and holding him dear]. Eph. 5:33b
UGH! I have not been doing a good job of this at all. CONVICTED!
My husband had a hip replacement surgery 2 weeks ago and it has been 24/7 one on one time with him as well as waiting on him hand and foot. My “attitude” has not been one that delights in my husband, that I notice him and treat him with loving concern. No, my attitude is I need you out of my house and back to work. I never said that, but I’m sure my attitude has. I realize there is a lot of selfish pride in that last sentence. 🙁
OK, back to a FREE gift that will change your marriage. If we can live out Eph. 5:33b our marriages WILL change. God’s word never returns void. When we were in marriage counseling years ago, our assignment was to do one nice thing a day for each other. At first it was really hard to even think of something nice I would like to do for him, but practice makes perfect. We aren’t going to feel like doing it, but we have to live above our feeling and just start.
Respect your husband isn’t a nice word in our society. Treating our husbands with kindness and regarding him with honor is really looked down upon. Men are put down as not knowing nothing. It surprises me how much I’ve let the world creep in to my marriage. How about you?
But I get hung up on the fact that he isn’t living Eph. 5:33a the way I think he should so why should I live 5:33b? Well because nowhere in this scripture does it say that you only respect your husband if he loves you and treats you the way you want and should be treated. If we want to grow and mature we have to be obedient to the word.
How in the world do I live out this verse? This verse is packed full of stuff that doesn’t come naturally to me. That means I can’t do it on my own, in my own strength. I have to rely on the Holy Spirit to help me. Umm… I’m not really good at that part. My old fleshly patterns like to take over and control the show. I will start by going to God and asking Him to fill me and help me live this verse.
So I asked God what is one thing I can do each day until Valentines Day that I can show my husband that I love him according to this verse.
- I will apologize to him for my attitude and ask him to forgive me.
- His love language is acts of service, I will make him breakfast in bed. He’s the breakfast maker at our house so this will be a treat for him.
- I will write him a note telling him the 10 reasons I love him. Not only will this encourage him, it will help me get my mindset back on the good things about him, not all the stuff that drives me crazy. See the post on Be a Good Finder.
I challenge you to pray and ask God to show you how you can love your husband this Valentine’s Day in the way God asks you to.
If you need some ideas here are a few of my previous marriage posts:
- Time for a Marriage Checkup
- The Best Gift you can give your husband for Valentine’s Day
- Praising your husband verbally
- Creative Ways to Say I Love You
- Date Your Husband: Creative Date Ideas
- Loving Your Husband Intimately
- 10 Ways to Honor Dad on his special day
- 35 Things I’ve Learned in 35 Years of Marriage
- Marriage advice from a husbands perspective after 36 years