💔 “Why doesn’t he care?”
💔 “Why am I the only one trying?”
💔 “Why do I feel so alone in my own marriage?”
If you’ve ever had these thoughts, I want you to know—you’re not alone.
I remember sitting in my car, tears rolling down my face, feeling like my husband didn’t see me. It wasn’t one big thing that led me there. It was the little things—the forgotten “thank you’s,” the distracted nods while I talked, the feeling that I was giving my all and getting so little in return.
And the more I focused on those thoughts, the more distant I felt. The resentment grew. I convinced myself that my husband would never change—and do you know what happened? Nothing changed.
Because our thoughts create our results.
When we let negativity take root in our minds, it shapes how we see our husbands, how we respond to them, and ultimately, how we experience our marriage. But here’s the good news: God has given us the power to renew our minds (Romans 12:2). We don’t have to stay stuck.
Three Thoughts to Shift Your Marriage Today
1. “God is still working in my husband—even when I can’t see it.”
It’s easy to believe that nothing will ever change, but Philippians 1:6 reminds us that God is the one who completes the work He starts. Your husband’s growth isn’t your responsibility—God is working in ways you can’t yet see.
2. “I can choose to see the good in my husband today.”
Negativity blinds us. But gratitude shifts our focus. Even if it’s small, find one thing to appreciate about your husband today. Maybe he made you laugh. Maybe he filled up your gas tank. Maybe he showed up for work to provide. Choose to see the good.
3. “God, change ME first.”
This one stings. We want our husbands to change, but what if God is asking us to go first? Instead of praying, “Lord, make him different,” try, “Lord, help me love him better.” When we shift our hearts, our marriages shift too.
Sister, I know this isn’t easy. But I also know this: Your marriage is worth fighting for. And it starts with the thoughts you choose today.
Which of these thoughts do you need to hold on to right now?
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Is Your Marriage Stuck? Let’s Change That Together!
✅ Shift your mindset so you stop feeling resentful and start feeling empowered.
✅ Communicate in a way that actually brings you closer instead of creating more distance.
✅ Let go of bitterness and past hurts so you can feel peace again.
✅ Love and respect your husband in a way that changes the atmosphere of your marriage.
✅ Rebuild intimacy, connection, and joy—even if your husband isn’t on board yet!
Spots for this round will be limited, so if you want more details on how this program can transform your marriage, email me at barb@barbcampcoaching.com with the subject line “Better Me Waitlist” and I’ll send you all the info! or visit here.
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