5 Practical ways to Delight in your Husband

I shared on Tuesday that I was going to be focusing on marriage this month. I shared a post on Love your husband well. Go read that if you missed it. I’ve been thinking about my attitude towards marriage. I have picked up some of the worlds attitude and have been carrying it around. Take for example this scripture:

the wife [must see to it] that she respects and delights in her husband [that she notices him and prefers him and treats him with loving concern, treasuring him, honoring him, and holding him dear]. Eph. 5:33 AMP.

The world would scoff at those words and honestly I have too. Loving your husband has almost become a dirty word. God is calling me to more. I want MORE of Him and His attitude in me. I want to LOVE like He loves.

We’re going to break down the verse and see how to practically apply it to our lives. I am going to move respect down the list. Not because I want to ignore it, because it’s extremely important. I need more time to pray and ponder that one.

Today we will focus on taking delight in our husband.

the wife must see to it that she delights in her husband.

I like to define words so that I know what they really mean, not what I think they mean.

Delight:

1. a high degree of pleasure or enjoyment; joy; rapture: She takes great delight in her job.

2. something that gives great pleasure: The dance was a delight to see.

3. to give great pleasure, satisfaction, or enjoyment to; please highly: The show delighted everyone.

4. to have great pleasure; take pleasure: She delights in going for long walks in the country.

Pause for a second- Do you delight in your husband? Does he know you delight in him?

I realize there might be some repenting that needs to take place after answering those 2 questions because I know I needed to repent. Take sometime right now and confess to God your lack of delighting in your husband and ask Him to help you take delight in him.

Now let’s focus on some practical ways to “delight” in our hubbies. These are nothing NEW or earth shattering but they’re worth nothing unless we do them.

Here are 3 practical everyday ways to delight in your husband:

1. Verbally praise your him.

Speak life to him. It’s sooooo easy to focus on the negative things that drive us nuts, but harder to be a Good Finder. It’s important to praise him in front of your children as well.

Examples:

~I appreciate the way you __________________. (help clean the house, bathe the kids, spend time with me, take me on a date)

~I love that you are so ____________________. It’s one of your best qualities.

~I appreciate you finding time to________________________. It makes me feel loved.

~I love that you put God first in your life.

~I love your _________________. It’s one of my favorite things about you.

2. Know your husbands love language and speak it!

My husbands love language is Acts of Service. That doesn’t come natural to me but I’m LEARNING how to speak it to him. I have to be intentional. Gary Thomas wrote a book called the The Five Love Language and it’s a must read for your marriage.

3. Send him random texts surprising him with why you love him.

Here are a few to get you thinking:

~ I love being your wife.

~ I appreciate all your hard work. You bless our family so much.

~ I spent time praying for YOU this morning. Have a great day!

~ What do you think about putting the kids to bed early tonight? 🙂

~I’m blessed to have someone as wonderful as you.

You get the point, now make up your own.

4. Do something that he wants to do with out complaining.

Is there things you hubby wants you to do with him that you don’t particularly like? If so do it without complaining. It’s even better if you offer to do it before he asks.

5. Enjoy him intimately.

Let’s face it men were created by GOD to want and need sex. We were too, sometimes it just gets lost in the translation. Spend some time and effort working on this area of your marriage and I’m positive he will appreciate you delighting in him in this way. I wrote a blog post on Loving Your Husband Intimately. There is lots of good stuff there. Go check it out.

Love is an action, not a feeling. Do the action and the feelings will follow. It may feel awkward to do these things, but keep it up and it will soon feel natural.

Great marriages don’t just happen! They take work, but the reward is worth the effort.

Love Your Husband Well…

Check these out:

Week 1 Verbally praise your husband

Week 2 Creative Ways to Say I Love You

Week 3 Date Your Husband: Creative Date Ideas

Week 4 Loving Your Husband Intimately

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Comments

Jamie says: February 9, 2017 at 4:43 PM

What great ideas! I’ve been married to my husband for 16 years and have known him for about 25! I pray that I can do some of these things to help him know he’s loved even more! 🙂

- Barb Camp says: February 9, 2017 at 5:09 PM
  
  Thank you Jamie!! I always seem to need constant reminders on this topic. I appreciate you stopping by and leaving me a comment.
  
Brooke Grangard says: February 10, 2017 at 8:38 AM

These are great suggestions! I find it easy to let the day go by with little ones around and forget to verbalize my appreciation for my husband. Thanks for sharing this!

- Barb Camp says: February 10, 2017 at 8:46 AM
  
  Isn’t that the truth? If it’s not kids, it’s housework, or church work. We definitely have to be intentional. Thanks Brooke for stopping by. Have a great weekend.
  
Nicole Kauffman says: February 10, 2017 at 10:02 AM

Great post! This is definitely something that can be pushed under the rug as life gets busy. Thank you for the reminder and awesome practical ideas! 🙂

- Barb Camp says: February 11, 2017 at 10:38 AM
  
  It’s so true! After 39 years of marriage you would think it would be easy but I think I just become complacent. Thanks for stopping by and letting me know you liked my post. Have a great day.
  
Karen Del Tatto says: February 10, 2017 at 10:55 AM

Wow! The amplified version of the verse from Ephesians I found very convicting! It created a clear word picture of how to love our husbands and I am falling woefully short.

Thanks so much for breaking down practical ways to delight in our husbands. I think all of those actions you outlined too often get lost in self.

The Bible verse I always come back to in marriage is, “Do not grow weary of doing good.”

Thanks for sharing your insights here.

- Barb Camp says: February 11, 2017 at 10:40 AM
  
  Thanks Karen for your kind words. The amplified version is definitely convicting. Gal. 6:9 is a verse that comes out of my lips often.
  
A Narrow-Minded Woman says: February 10, 2017 at 3:11 PM

Love these practical suggestions! I just texted my husband one of your suggestions. He has been away on business all week and is coming home late this evening. It is such a pleasure and honor to love and be loved by such a wonderful man. Thanks for the reminder to show him my love for him in such practical ways. 😀

- Barb Camp says: February 11, 2017 at 10:40 AM
  
  Yay! So proud of you for taking action right away. Thanks for stopping by and letting me know you liked my post. Have a great day.
  
Andrea says: February 10, 2017 at 10:25 PM

The word “delight” is beguiling. I tend to think of it in terms of dessert and not my husband. 🙂 Hmmm….. you’ve made me think here. I’ll see your 5 and raise you 5. I will take it a step further and ponder what my 5 would be. I’m joining you from #FridayFive link up.

- Barb Camp says: February 11, 2017 at 10:37 AM
  
  I’d love to see what your 5 are. Please share when you have them down. Thanks for hosting and stopping by to leave me a comment.
  
Kelly R Smith says: February 11, 2017 at 7:08 AM

I love these love reminders! We are nearing 19 years of marriage. It is so easy for me to forget to delight in my husband. Thanks for linking up! #FridayFive

- Barb Camp says: February 11, 2017 at 10:45 AM
  
  Kelly, it sure is easy to forget. I need post it notes all over my house to remind me. Thanks for stopping by and thanks for hosting so I can link up. Blessings to you!
  
Leigh says: February 11, 2017 at 11:21 AM

Thanks for the good word! I Tweeted and Pinned this post. Thanks for sharing at the Healthy Living Link Party!
Blessings, Leigh

- Barb Camp says: February 11, 2017 at 12:33 PM
  
  Thank you Leigh for hosting so I could link up. Thanks for pinning and tweeting. Have a great day.